The Dowry system is a curse for our society
We are living in a materialistic society, where people are not honest, instead, they’re greedy. In our society, everyone tries to snatch by hook or crook. We are such a nation, who feel proud of speaking English and ashamed of speaking Urdu, or any native language. And we also consider language as a tool of measurement, through which we analyze the talent of a person. We judge everything by its cover. There is no existence of justice in our society. The poor are becoming poorer day by day, While the rich getting richer. Similarly, we have locked the doors of justice, either that are courts or in any other public place.
We are west follower people
We are blindly following West even knowing, that we do not need to. If we ponder on, our marriage ceremonies then we’ll come to know, that we are proudly following West. We have to build a complex society. If someone wants to perform his/her daughter’s marriage, then they’ll have to start preparing for it too early. And they have to start the arrangement accordingly. Our major problem is that; we are always looking towards the comments of our respective societies. So, we are living for society, not for ourselves. Because we want everything to be done according to the standards of society. Otherwise, society will not accept us.
We should follow Islam
As far as I have observed, things are getting from bad to worse. If it won’t be stopped, then I’m damn sure, that it will remain enough to make us suffer. So, for that, the law should be implemented in its true sense.
Being a Muslim, and being followers of the last messenger of God, we have to follow the valuable teachings of Islam. And then we have to act accordingly. But, unfortunately, we don’t! Why do we do that? We can’t! We are having societies, and they have expectations, which seems mandatory to each of us.
Therefore, it seems like we are living for them. Our siege mentality coerces us, that if we don’t follow all these so-called cultures/traditions then, what will people say?. If we follow Islamic values, society will not accept us.
Giving dowry doesn’t make any difference to the affluent class but those who can’t afford it, have to face a lot of difficulties. Sometimes girls stay unmarried simply because their parents can’t give dowry. We are living in a materialistic society. Vulgar displays of wealth are a part of our culture.
According to statistics, Pakistan has the highest number of dowry death rates per 100,000 women in the world. It’s alarming to our society. Just imagine how it is a shameful act when the groom’s family demands dowry from the brides’ society. People demand dowry mostly because of social pressure and out of greed as well.
Dowry is a curse. It is a social menace.
I did a Master’s in English from the National University of modern languages. I am writing articles for different online newspapers and blogs. I have remained an English lecturer at Oriental Degree College Peshawar.